The Blind Date

Ann Landers
May 1, 1994

Dear Ann Landers: I met a young woman at college who has it all - looks, brains and personality. I finally got up enough nerve to ask her out, and she accepted.

After we had been dating for a few months, it became apparent that she was beginning to feel as strongly about me as I felt about her, so we made plans to go on our first out-of-town (overnight) trip together - a drive to San Diego for a three-day weekend.

Although I didn't know for sure that anything was going to happen, I thought I'd better be prepared, so I stopped by a drugstore on the way home from school to buy some condoms. I had never bought condoms before (I usually got them from friends), so I was a little ill at ease. I tried to make small talk with the pharmacist as he rang up my purchase and foolishly blurted out that I might "get lucky" over the weekend.

When I went to pick up my girlfriend the next morning, imagine my shock when that pharmacist answered the door. He was her father.

I was so embarrassed I couldn't speak. Fortunately, my girlfriend was ready on time, and we managed to leave after a brief introduction.

We had a lovely weekend, but I didn't tell her that I had bought the condoms from her father. I now am feeling guilty and uneasy.

Should I say something and get it over with or keep quiet? - Van Nuys, Calif.

Dear V.N.: Keep quiet. It's enough that YOU are embarrassed. Why make your girlfriend uncomfortable too?

There are times when the less said, the better, and this happens to be one of those times.

(Original letter submitted by David P. Mikkelson).